How to find a girlfriend in highschool?

Previously I gave dating tips for teenagers and in response to a question, I gave more specifics tips on dating for shy teenagers.

Well, Michael benefited from both articles but still wrote to ask more specific questions. "I am a 17 year old highschool student, and well, I haven't had a girlfriend in my life. Nowadays in highschool, I would say that 8 out of 10 women you know have blonde or brown hair and do what they can to make their chests stick out. Well, those kind of women don't do it for me. I find that I would rather be in a relationship with a woman I can stand to be with and I am attracted to rather than dating one of those airheads and be miserable. To be honest I am more attracted to average women rather than the model types. But my real question is well I am not really Mr. Handsome that makes every women fall in love instantaneously. I would have to say my looks are only average if not most likly below average. So one of my questions is How important are looks to a woman? Also what are some ways I can approach her, and well, what if she finds out I have never been with a girl before?"

Well, I do admire you for your philosophy that you only want to go out because you are genuinely interested rather than trying to be with the most popular girl even if it means that you are miserable in the relationship and she treats you like an accessory.

Do looks matter to girls?

Now, in high school, the game works differently. There are the popular guys that are great at sports or have some other talent and girls dream of being with them. But in reality it is such a small group. That leaves a lot of guys and girls in the other group. Guys like you who are not the most handsome or great at sports or members of a band or driving a sports car. Similarly, there are girls who do not have the model-body or the most expensive clothes or a BMW to drive.

In other words, you have a huge pool of girls to choose from. Honestly, based on what we are finding out, looks are actually only a second thought to girls, if the guy is otherwise reliable, trustworthy, and fun to be with. Obviously, each girl has a type of guy that she likes and you will just need to keep trying till you meet that special someone. So start off by approaching the girls that are definitely single. Trust me these girls go to bed every night wondering why no guy asks them out.

How to approach a girl in high school?

There are many ways to approach a girl but since you are in school, a great way to do is to ask for help. Everyone likes to help. So first find out what is she good at and ask if she wants to study together since you need help in that area. That is a great way to get to know each other without the pressure of asking out someone on a date and getting rejected. When you do something related to school together you can be yourself, find out if she is really what you thought she was, and test if you have chemistry. Then at some point, you can simply suggest, "Hey, I like hanging out with you. Maybe we should go out this weekend!"

You might still be rejected or make a wrong choice or whatever, but the key is to keep trying and not give up.

I have never dated before; is that a problem?

Now to your final question about not being with a girl before. It is not an issue because you are still so young. Many parents can be strict, some guys simply don't find the right girl, or are too busy with grades -- there are a million reasons why a 17-year old has never had a girlfriend. Some girls appreciate it because they know that you will give everything to her, while others might think that no girl ever liked you and that is why you never had a girlfriend. I think the right response to a question on this issue is the one that you gave me. Say something like "I find that I would rather be in a relationship with a woman I can stand to be with and I am attracted to rather than just date someone because she is popular or good-looking. I want to be with you because you meet my high standards. " Trust me she will love hearing that.