Planning before marriage
MYNIPPON readers are well aware of the concerted efforts we have been making to bring down the divorce rate in America. In our opinion, one of the things that can help in lower number of divorces is to not marry in a hurry. We have been telling our fans that it is better to wait than to marry with the attitude that "If it doesn't work out, I can simply ask for a divorce." (Related article: Is there a right age to marry?)
Cristina, one of our readers, seems to clearly appreciate the gravity of a marriage and what a great responsibility it is. She is only 19 and is about to be engaged to someone who is only 20. Too young to be married? Probably, if you use conventional metrics. But it also depends on the maturity level of the person, she says. "We are both independent people but believe that marriage is our next step after two and a half years together. We are both very mature for our age and have been told that by many, including counselors and other adults. We see ourselves as very prestigious people looking toward the future at certain set goals. Our goals are very similar. We are not exactly alike, but cherish each other's differences. Our personalities blend very well. At first communication was sloppy, but after a few obstacles we have learned how to resolve problems without causing conflict. Our family members have married at the age that we are and are very happy with the usual obstacles that must be faced. After much deep thinking on whether or not we will be able to survive financially and emotionally, we have decided that marriage is a good way to go. We are both ready, we both know what we want from life, are paying a whole lot of money to go to school so we can be successful in an already decided field, and have the same plans for the future especially when it comes to children. Once again, if a teenage couple or even early 20's couple does not yet know who they are or what they want from life, they should wait a few more years and work on getting to know themselves and everything else." (Related article: Expert opinion on right age to marry)
This is the right attitude, in our opinion. Is it likely that Cristina and her boyfriend might screw up? Of course. But so can couples who are much older than them. What is important is that a couple appreciates the responsibility and challenges of marriage and makes a serious commitment to make it work. Cristina and her boyfriend are already thinking about these things in a very objective and honest manner and that might be the main reason for the success of their marriage.
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Cristina, one of our readers, seems to clearly appreciate the gravity of a marriage and what a great responsibility it is. She is only 19 and is about to be engaged to someone who is only 20. Too young to be married? Probably, if you use conventional metrics. But it also depends on the maturity level of the person, she says. "We are both independent people but believe that marriage is our next step after two and a half years together. We are both very mature for our age and have been told that by many, including counselors and other adults. We see ourselves as very prestigious people looking toward the future at certain set goals. Our goals are very similar. We are not exactly alike, but cherish each other's differences. Our personalities blend very well. At first communication was sloppy, but after a few obstacles we have learned how to resolve problems without causing conflict. Our family members have married at the age that we are and are very happy with the usual obstacles that must be faced. After much deep thinking on whether or not we will be able to survive financially and emotionally, we have decided that marriage is a good way to go. We are both ready, we both know what we want from life, are paying a whole lot of money to go to school so we can be successful in an already decided field, and have the same plans for the future especially when it comes to children. Once again, if a teenage couple or even early 20's couple does not yet know who they are or what they want from life, they should wait a few more years and work on getting to know themselves and everything else." (Related article: Expert opinion on right age to marry)
This is the right attitude, in our opinion. Is it likely that Cristina and her boyfriend might screw up? Of course. But so can couples who are much older than them. What is important is that a couple appreciates the responsibility and challenges of marriage and makes a serious commitment to make it work. Cristina and her boyfriend are already thinking about these things in a very objective and honest manner and that might be the main reason for the success of their marriage.
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